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THE ARIES SEXUAL PSYCHE:
Intense, confident, naturally sensual and incredibly quick and smart, these are the qualities that await you if you lock eyes with an Aries at a party or accept a drink at your local pub or bar. If the Aries is a female, she may still be the aggressor because this fire sign doesn’t want to wait for anyone. If they like you, you know it. No mystery here.
Aries, male and female, represent the union of heaven and earth, the highest ideals and the most basic of our animal instincts. They strive to be the heroes of the universe, improving the world, often at the sacrifice of their own personal dreams. Those that choose to follow their higher selves struggle with their earthly desires which they judge as unworthy. However, this is their challenge: to accept all of themselves and not just the parts that get approval. The inner struggle to harness these two extremes creates their intense nature, their drive to conquer and yes, it gives them an edge, one that creates sparks as well as tension and competition.
Their need to be seen as the best in your eyes sets off their dance of seduction, a non-stop quest to win you over in spite of any resistance. They’re exciting because “no” is not a word they understand and their instinctual nature can zero in past your fears and follies and touch the core of your being with one quick glance. However, the dance outside the bedroom door is different to the one inside, for once you surrender to them they change the game, and instead of the warrior you have a loving servant, eager to please and bring you to ecstasy.
As eager as they were to oppose and prove themselves in the outside world, in the bedroom you are now their master. It is through sex that the battle of opposites within them ends. In fact, it is their so called lower instinctual self that they have judged as 'negative', that emerges as the leader, connecting the Aries and its partner to all the physical joys that can only be reached by those willing to shed shame and self- consciousness in a quest for physical fulfillment.
A note to Aries females: If you repress your aggressive and competitive side, you’ll just find yourself attracted to it in a partner. Learn how to express all of your emotions so that you can be in charge of your pleasure and your life.
The Aries Turn On:
As the first sign of the zodiac, the Aries is a visual being and so no matter how intelligent and interesting you are, the first thing they will notice is your physical body, the colors you wear (they love strong, bold colors), and the attitude that pulls it all together. That’s what gets their attention, but to hold them longer than a short conversation or a one-night stand, you’ll need to have “body power.” Yes, it’s really not about how thin or curvy the female is or how muscular or perfect the male physique may be, it’s how much you love all of yourself and that includes your imperfections. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, the Aries is turned-on. You reveal this by how you move, your rhythm, and the way you hold yourself. When you love you, the Aries is interested.
Now let’s talk attitude. Attitude is what travels across a room and states your philosophy of life without you having to say a word. It’s a turn-on to an Aries when you give off the message that you don’t need their approval, so forget the bullshit and say what you think. They love the one who can walk away, or ignore them – they see this as strength. And in spite of their own directness and honesty they are turned on by mystery and intrigue. Thus, it is not to your advantage to reveal your entire life over the first drink you share .. make them probe and wait for the whole story. So if you don’t have an attitude, work on one, make sure it reflects the self-respect and the confidence you have in yourself.
Aries love adventure, variety and danger (the chance of discovery) when it comes to sex. Don’t tempt them with sex on the kitchen table unless you are ready for the experience. Don’t turn them on in a park without being prepared to be seduced behind a tree. And yes, don’t be afraid to pull out the book of sexual positions and ask your partner to help you check them off one at a time. They’ll do almost anything once, after all, how else will they know what they like.
Wisdom and knowledge are also high on their list of turn-ons. So if you’re smart -flaunt it, it won’t make them run - they have a need to learn from everyone. And whatever you do, don’t wait for them to take charge, you call the shots, tell them what you like and do what you said you would do. They’re tired of people not showing up because of repressed fears and uncertainty. When you show them you are a person of action, when you don’t wait to respond to them, when you make them chase you, they’re highly aroused and off and running in your direction.
What An Aries Wants From You:
Put your insecurities on the backburner and move courage and confidence to the forefront. Don’t be shy, show them which place on your body you want explored first - the forest or the mountains. Behind their appearance of confidence they struggle with indecision and uncertainty. So whatever you do, don’t criticize them, instead praise them for what you want more of and you’ll get it - they follow the honey. The more certain you are about your needs and the more you establish requirements for them to measure up to, the more excited they are because you have challenged them .. and an Aries always loves a challenge. So don’t be afraid to demand what you want - it’s one of the few places they take orders well. When you are in charge of your own pleasure you won’t be ignored, you’ll get someone eager to help you accomplish your goals.
Get Rid of The Shame:
Shame, self-consciousness and the inability to let go, are what stop most people from enjoying sex. As the first sign of the zodiac, the Aries struggles with these concepts in most of their relationships. However, if they are willing and curious enough, sex will become their source of liberation. Some sexual expressions may at first be considered inappropriate, but if judgment can be released, then the Aries and its partner may be truly rewarded. Remember, anything agreed upon voluntarily by both people is fair game, so if you are either the Aries or the partner, give yourself permission to explore. Go ahead, tie them up. Buy those satin restraints for yourself or your Aries. The real joy is in the relinquishment of control. Feeling slutty or dirty? Feel like flaunting your sexuality? It doesn’t hurt to play. Girls .. buy the black corset and stockings and wear the spiked heels. It’s one side of you that also deserves a voice. Men .. expose some chest, forget about shaving and get ready to work up a sweat - if it turns you on, chances are it will turn your partner on too.
Act impulsive! Aries adore spontaneity and if you rip their clothes off when they come through the door, they’ll probably love it. The animal in them will enjoy letting go of good manners, especially when it stands between desire and fulfillment. Aries like to explore any openings or places they can get into on your body and their’s (if you’re the Aries just make sure your partner is cooperative and willing). So, go and play. Ultimately, your enjoyment is up to you .. you set the limits.
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