The Journey Back To Love

We come into this world in our pure innate state, with no man-made beliefs, no man-made perceptions, no man-made reactions, no man-made emotions and no man-made fears. We arrive essentially as just our pure loving self, as consciousness manifested.

Then we begin a journey that takes us further and further away from ourself. As we grow up in our different environments so we are each exposed to different ways of behaving, ways of thinking, of talking, of reacting. These ‘ways’ shape us, they quite literally get programmed into the cells of the body’s nervous system as ‘beliefs’ and continue to play out in us as unconscious patterns throughout our lives. 

As society is primarily fabricated on success and recognition, we also automatically follow our fundamental instinct to love and be loved by adapting ourselves and our behavior to become more appealing, more approved of. We play with our emotional as well as our physical appearance until we create a character that we feel sufficiently happy and secure with. We unwittingly become conditioned to do and say what we think other people want to see and hear, and in so doing we even further lose our sense of self.

Over time we become ever more immersed in our façade and this unintentional illusion becomes our reality, we live it on a daily basis. Yet, this persona which we express to the outside world does not reflect who we really are ... it is simply a learned identity and bears no resemblance to our true self.

The process of life may disconnect us from our essential loving nature, and yet when we re-discover it, the very love that we are automatically attracts the love that we seek. As electromagnetic beings we simply generate what we radiate. Put simply, love attracts love. So, finding love is actually all about the journey back to our self, back to our true nature, and although a million romantic novels would have us believe otherwise, love is about our relationship with ourself, not with someone else. The relationship we have with ourself IS the exact relationship we have with everyone else! This is why the primary focus at alovingspace.com is on self-awareness and self-allowing.

All relationships, be they friendship, professional or romantic, offer us the opportunity to re-find our self. Romantic relationships, however, by virtue of their extra intensity, offer the greatest opportunity. As we can only see ourselves in others, our partners constantly present us with reflections of our own behavior. They shine the light of awareness on every aspect of our character and consequently we have no choice but to see the illusion of what we have become. In the recognition of our own habitual patterns, they begin to naturally fall away, allowing us to unveil who we really are - love. This is the beauty of relationships and this is the journey back to our self. The only question is .. will the journey be rough or smooth?

With the right tools, we can be better equipped to acknowledge these ‘learnings’, create new awareness, develop a more mature understanding of the world, enjoy richer relationships and lead a happier, healthier life. With the right information, our journey can be smoother and infinitely more pleasurable.

At alovingspace.com we provide tools for self-recognition. We are not endorsing them as belief systems, they simply provide pointers designed to awaken the self awareness necessary to create and sustain successful relationships. The information is for all our benefit and is there to guide us, not to force decisions upon us. We have free will and ultimately, whichever path we choose, we always arrive at our destination.

At alovingspace.com we know that, irrespective of life experiences and battered beliefs, the ultimate goal for each and every one of us is love … for this is our true nature. 



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