Allowing Versus Accepting

When we are a loving space for our self, we are the same loving space for a partner. 

When we accept ourselves, we find peace, not just with ourselves but with all our relationships. Yet, the word ‘acceptance’ implies that we have had a close look at something – a person, a situation, a thing – and made a conscious decision that it is ok. But what if it is not ok?  Do we still accept it? Perhaps we do but in this case it would be a begrudging acceptance. So, acceptance can mean that we understand and tolerate a person, situation or thing. Toleration, however, does not make for a happy state of mind. It involves effort.

‘Allowing’, on the other hand, has a different dynamic. When we allow, we permit without any form of conscious approval or disapproval. We simply allow whatever is happening to happen and witness it without moving toward or away from it. Just as we notice and allow leaves blowing in the wind, so we notice and allow two people arguing or the rain falling or a part of our body aching. There is no attachment or detachment, we simply notice and allow. It is effortless. 

‘Allowing’ is seeing everything from the perspective of consciousness, simply being that impassive space within which everything happens and is noticed. When we allow, life is witnessed as just a series of events rather than emotional triggers. Allowing contains the dynamic of life without reacting to it, whereas accepting is linked to emotion and is a part of the dynamic that is contained by allowing. The difference is subtle yet only allowing offers no resistance.

When we allow all the different light and dark aspects that make up our character, when we no longer sit in judgment of them or attach blame, shame or guilt to them, but instead simply witness and allow them, then we move beyond human conditioning and into the realm of our true nature – pure consciousness. The drama and pain that comes form our habitual reactions to people, situations and things does not exist here - this is a place of awareness and of being.

Can we allow ourselves to allow life? To simply allow everything that happens to happen just as it does? When we live as pure consciousness, as pure awareness, we are the non-reacting space in which everything happens, we contain life. Free from the misery of conditioned emotional reactions, we can be our true self – a loving space for our own human character and for all others. In this space, all are allowed, acknowledged and permitted. This is our true loving nature. And when we live as that space, that love, we automatically attract and allow more love into our lives – which is why alovingspace.com is designed to help YOU recognize and allow all of yourself. In that allowing, you will be and find the love you seek.