Ask Our Expert, Florian Schlosser

Most of us unquestioningly believe that there exists such a thing as a relationship 'between' two human beings. Habitually the focus of our attention is mostly turned outside, creating a sense of separation and distance between 'us' over here and 'them' over there. It feels like 'two'. It is this 'two-ness' which is experienced as a relationship. Yet does this apparent external relationship actually exist in its own right or is it just a mirror image of the relationship we are having with life?

In this section and particularly on our Relationship videos, I am introducing you to a different and new perspective on relationship and relating. The core message is:

"There is only one genuine relationship that exists in life. It is the relationship that we have with our own experience, moment to moment. The apparent 'outside' relationship is only an exact reflection of the way we relate with our own experience. How we deal with life is exactly how we deal with everyone else. We can never relate with a partner any differently than the way we relate with the experience we are having."

Based on this new perspective some key questions may arise that I warmly invite you to explore in your own experience, at your own speed and within your own integrity:

• Is there actually anything to be changed or looked for 'outside'?
• Can I be with someone without wanting anything from him or her?
• Can I be genuinely free in a relationship?
• Is there a 'right' or 'wrong' partner, or is this just a perceived delusion?
• Can I look at my partner as being my own heart?
• How close can I be with someone if I am, in reality, only dealing with my own experience?